Communication that has stopped working
The same fight on repeat. One partner pursues, the other withdraws. Conversations that never land.
Services · Couples therapy
Couples therapy that works with the pattern.
Online couples therapy across Ontario for committed partnerships. Attachment-based and EFT-informed, focused on the dynamic between you, not on assigning blame.
About couples therapy at Anchor & Bloom.
Couples therapy at Anchor & Bloom is virtual psychotherapy for committed partnerships across Ontario. The work is attachment-based and informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, with room for the body and the patterns each partner brings from earlier in life.
We work with married, common-law, dating, queer, polyamorous, and otherwise non-traditional partnerships. The structure of your relationship is not the question. The patterns between you are.
What couples bring in
The most common reasons couples reach out.
Disconnection
The slow drift. Living parallel lives. Knowing you love each other and not feeling it the way you used to.
Infidelity and broken trust
The work of repair, when both partners want it. This work is slow, structured, and held with care.
Life transitions
New baby, fertility journey, career change, illness, move. The relationship under pressure of change.
Sex and intimacy
Differences in desire, the loss of physical closeness, working through pain or shame around sex.
Considering separation
For couples sitting with whether to stay or go. The work is clarity, not a forced outcome.
How sessions work
A typical course.
- First session. A conversation with both partners about what is happening, what each of you wants from therapy, and how we work.
- Following sessions. A mix of working with patterns as they come up between you, slower work on the underlying attachment dynamics, and small experiments between sessions.
- Modalities used. Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples (EFT), attachment-based therapy, somatic-informed approaches, and elements of solution-focused work where it helps.
- Frequency. Weekly is most common for the first phase. Many couples shift to biweekly as patterns settle.
- Length of work. 12 to 24 sessions is a typical EFT-informed course. Some couples need less, some need more.
- Format. Both partners on video through Jane, a PHIPA-compliant Canadian platform.
- Session length. 60 to 80 minutes.
Who offers this
Clinicians who work with couples.
Katelyn Matias, RP
Registered Psychotherapist, CRPO #10340
EFT-informed couples therapy for adults navigating disconnection, repair, communication cycles, and the patterns each partner brings from earlier life.
About KatelynDaniella Simas Medeiros, RP (Qualifying)
Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying)
Affirming couples work for adults, queer couples, polyamorous partnerships, and couples navigating fertility, identity, and life transitions.
About DaniellaCommon questions about couples therapy.
Do both partners have to want to be in therapy?
It helps. Couples therapy works best when both partners are invested in the process, even if one is more hesitant at first. If only one of you is ready, individual therapy is often a better starting point.
We are not married. Can we still come?
Yes. Couples therapy at Anchor & Bloom is for any committed partnership, regardless of marital status, gender, or relationship structure. We work with dating couples, common-law partners, married couples, polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous partnerships.
Will the therapist take sides?
No. The therapist holds space for both partners and works with the patterns between you, not with one of you against the other.
How long does couples therapy take?
A typical course of attachment-based couples therapy runs 12 to 24 sessions. Some couples need fewer, some need more, and some return for shorter rounds later. We talk about pacing as we go.
Can we come for just a few sessions to work on one issue?
Some couples come for short-term work on a specific issue. We will be honest in the first session about whether that feels realistic for what you are bringing.
What if we are considering separation?
Therapy can hold that uncertainty. The work is not aimed at staying together at all costs. It is aimed at clarity. Some couples re-attach. Some separate consciously. Some discover what they need to know.
How much do couples sessions cost?
Couples sessions are $200 (50 minutes) or $285 (85 minutes). Most extended health benefit plans through Canadian employers cover Registered Psychotherapist services, though couples therapy is sometimes treated differently from individual therapy. Confirm with your insurer. Psychotherapy is exempt from GST/HST as of June 2024.
For plan-by-plan coverage details, direct billing notes, and how to submit a claim, see Fees & Insurance.
Further reading
Trusted clinical resources.
The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy is the home of EFT, with information for clients and clinicians.
For information on the regulation of psychotherapists in Ontario, see the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario.
Related services
What often supports couples work.
Fertility & postpartum support
For couples navigating fertility journeys, perinatal experiences, or postpartum transitions.
Trauma therapy
When earlier trauma is showing up in the closest relationships.
Anxiety therapy
Individual support alongside couples work when one or both partners are carrying anxiety.
Start with a free conversation.
A 15-minute consultation with both partners is the first step.